Anonymity With in the Adult Sex Industry

This blog is going to be pointed towards the online sex industry that does not include meet ups, hook ups, or any in real life happenings.

There is a rule in the sex industry about names.

The name you give is your name. There is no pressure to give out your real name. There is no reason to hunt down someones name. Most importantly, you do not give out any one's legal name, for any reason, what so ever.

This rule goes for Sex workers, as well as customers alike. It is a safety concern for both parties. Our society as a whole does not condone openly speaking of having sexual activities. They like to pretend that, sex is only for baby making, and that little thing comes from a stork.

If you masturbate and are public about it, a voyeur, exhibitionist. have a special kink, an odd fetish, are anything but straight; you have become black listed from society and must be punished for it.

But...

You can't be blacklisted if no one knows your real name..

You wont be shamed for something that you aren't embarrassed of.

You won't be thrown out of your home, or have your family taken away for expressing yourself.

You can disappear if you have to.

As a model, I chose to keep my sex and work life separated from my home life and family, for my safety, and my families safety. I had heard and read the horror stories of fans or people that just watched hunting down girls, kidnapping them, stalking them, looking up their families. The list of things that could happen about outing a cam model is pretty long,

As a viewer I keep my identity secret and separate from my model status. I to like to view and tip models that are entertaining, beautiful to me, and funny. As a viewer I don't want people to know who I am because in today's society, just viewing someone doing an adult act upon themselves is seen as some disgusting perversion of a thing to do. When in all reality, its pretty damn natural and normal. Ever watch your significant other shower? Masturbate, or even change clothes? CONGRATULATION YOU ARE A VOYEUR!

How to keep yourself anonymous in this industry.

Create an email specifically for your account, as well as a separate twitter, and other social media outlets that you plan on using as this anonymous person.

DO NOT USE SOMEONE ELSE'S IDENTITY. 

This includes, their name, pictures, email, home address, any of it. If its not a fake person you are making, then you are stealing some one's identity.

Do not share your PG pictures that you have on your family facebook, to people in your industry.

Make your user name unattached to your real life. 

Say your name is bob smith and you were born in '84 and your favorite team is the colts. DO NOT make your user name BSmithColts84.

If you have found someone else's true identity or they have given it to you, you should treat it with as much regard as a business does with your private information. It is called the HIPPA act. You keep it to yourself and do not give it out to anyone for any reason what so ever, unless the said person that the identity belongs to gives you permission to hand this information over to another person of specific choice. 

But Bell, I don't care if people know who I am. 

That is wonderful, and fine, and your choice. You and you alone are the only one that can decide how much safety you should have and how much protection you wish to put up for yourself and your family. Some feel they need none, and others feel they need more. Feel free to let people know your real information as much as you please.

Outing myself

This week before I left for Vegas, I told my family what I do for a living.

I was terrified.

My mother was raised southern baptist. I didn't even get the sex talk when I was younger because its just something that the family does not do. My step father is pretty Internet retarded, so he has no idea what a cam model is. 

My husbands family is very very Mexican Catholic, extremely conservative. Comfortable middle class people with good jobs, good life, just right. 

I have never once been embarrassed or ashamed of what I do. On the contrariety, I felt guilty for enjoying my job. I was raised to think that sexual acts outside of the marriage was a sin and should be punished for. It gave me very conflicting feelings on what to do because I was under the impression that if we were to tell our family about my job, that they would react extremely bad. 

My mother is my best friend. She always has been and always will be. Socrates family are like my second parents. Their all amazing people. A part of me always wanted to tell them, but not until after I was done with this part of my life, years down the road. So they would see that I was not putting myself or my little family in danger.

A model (who shall remain nameless, but trust me, I have the screen caps dear, I know exactly who you are!) dug around and somehow found out my information. A dear friend who is Switzerland between us came to me and showed me what he was sent by her. I was horrified. But he promised he would not share it to anyone else, but thought I should know that she is showing it around to others. He personally gives no fucks about my home life, because he isn't paying me for that. 

That is when Soc and I decided it would be best for us to tell them now, before some stranger shows them what I do. 

They were PROUD.

Proud.

....Proud?

Really? How can you be proud of me after all these years of shoving sexual oppression in my face?

Their happy for me and Socrates. They said they have noticed that him and I have been happier for about the length of time I have been doing this. They are so joy full that we are able to communicate and not hold back things like they felt they had to. They feel like they raised us right. And they know that we are doing what is best for our family, and that they know we would never ever put our child in danger with this.  

I'm confused and flattered, and a bit upset. I was expecting tears and yelling and being cut off from my family. Not being brought closer. It made me mad that I held this in for so damn long.

So, dear cam model Thank you for digging around to find out my information. I hope you feel better now. Thank you for bringing our close tight nit family even closer. I honestly never thought I would thank you for a damn thing in the entire time I've known you. Thanks for pushing me just that tid bit over the edge so I could be open with my family. I hated having to shut them off from a part of my life for this long. And they know about you too and that you are the reason why I told them. They say thank you, but your a cold hearted jealous bitch for trying to out girls on here. Its a dangerous game to play and could actually get someone hurt in the process. So, even though my story came out so much better than you were wishing, others could actually be killed from this game you are playing. Just because you don't care that everyone knows your information, doesn't mean the rest of us want the world to know where we live and our names. Some of us actually do have to worry about people stalking us. 

Love, 

Bell

Chaturbate.com/heresheis 

A world of thanks to you.

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