Anonymity With in the Adult Sex Industry

This blog is going to be pointed towards the online sex industry that does not include meet ups, hook ups, or any in real life happenings.

There is a rule in the sex industry about names.

The name you give is your name. There is no pressure to give out your real name. There is no reason to hunt down someones name. Most importantly, you do not give out any one's legal name, for any reason, what so ever.

This rule goes for Sex workers, as well as customers alike. It is a safety concern for both parties. Our society as a whole does not condone openly speaking of having sexual activities. They like to pretend that, sex is only for baby making, and that little thing comes from a stork.

If you masturbate and are public about it, a voyeur, exhibitionist. have a special kink, an odd fetish, are anything but straight; you have become black listed from society and must be punished for it.

But...

You can't be blacklisted if no one knows your real name..

You wont be shamed for something that you aren't embarrassed of.

You won't be thrown out of your home, or have your family taken away for expressing yourself.

You can disappear if you have to.

As a model, I chose to keep my sex and work life separated from my home life and family, for my safety, and my families safety. I had heard and read the horror stories of fans or people that just watched hunting down girls, kidnapping them, stalking them, looking up their families. The list of things that could happen about outing a cam model is pretty long,

As a viewer I keep my identity secret and separate from my model status. I to like to view and tip models that are entertaining, beautiful to me, and funny. As a viewer I don't want people to know who I am because in today's society, just viewing someone doing an adult act upon themselves is seen as some disgusting perversion of a thing to do. When in all reality, its pretty damn natural and normal. Ever watch your significant other shower? Masturbate, or even change clothes? CONGRATULATION YOU ARE A VOYEUR!

How to keep yourself anonymous in this industry.

Create an email specifically for your account, as well as a separate twitter, and other social media outlets that you plan on using as this anonymous person.

DO NOT USE SOMEONE ELSE'S IDENTITY. 

This includes, their name, pictures, email, home address, any of it. If its not a fake person you are making, then you are stealing some one's identity.

Do not share your PG pictures that you have on your family facebook, to people in your industry.

Make your user name unattached to your real life. 

Say your name is bob smith and you were born in '84 and your favorite team is the colts. DO NOT make your user name BSmithColts84.

If you have found someone else's true identity or they have given it to you, you should treat it with as much regard as a business does with your private information. It is called the HIPPA act. You keep it to yourself and do not give it out to anyone for any reason what so ever, unless the said person that the identity belongs to gives you permission to hand this information over to another person of specific choice. 

But Bell, I don't care if people know who I am. 

That is wonderful, and fine, and your choice. You and you alone are the only one that can decide how much safety you should have and how much protection you wish to put up for yourself and your family. Some feel they need none, and others feel they need more. Feel free to let people know your real information as much as you please.

Outing myself

This week before I left for Vegas, I told my family what I do for a living.

I was terrified.

My mother was raised southern baptist. I didn't even get the sex talk when I was younger because its just something that the family does not do. My step father is pretty Internet retarded, so he has no idea what a cam model is. 

My husbands family is very very Mexican Catholic, extremely conservative. Comfortable middle class people with good jobs, good life, just right. 

I have never once been embarrassed or ashamed of what I do. On the contrariety, I felt guilty for enjoying my job. I was raised to think that sexual acts outside of the marriage was a sin and should be punished for. It gave me very conflicting feelings on what to do because I was under the impression that if we were to tell our family about my job, that they would react extremely bad. 

My mother is my best friend. She always has been and always will be. Socrates family are like my second parents. Their all amazing people. A part of me always wanted to tell them, but not until after I was done with this part of my life, years down the road. So they would see that I was not putting myself or my little family in danger.

A model (who shall remain nameless, but trust me, I have the screen caps dear, I know exactly who you are!) dug around and somehow found out my information. A dear friend who is Switzerland between us came to me and showed me what he was sent by her. I was horrified. But he promised he would not share it to anyone else, but thought I should know that she is showing it around to others. He personally gives no fucks about my home life, because he isn't paying me for that. 

That is when Soc and I decided it would be best for us to tell them now, before some stranger shows them what I do. 

They were PROUD.

Proud.

....Proud?

Really? How can you be proud of me after all these years of shoving sexual oppression in my face?

Their happy for me and Socrates. They said they have noticed that him and I have been happier for about the length of time I have been doing this. They are so joy full that we are able to communicate and not hold back things like they felt they had to. They feel like they raised us right. And they know that we are doing what is best for our family, and that they know we would never ever put our child in danger with this.  

I'm confused and flattered, and a bit upset. I was expecting tears and yelling and being cut off from my family. Not being brought closer. It made me mad that I held this in for so damn long.

So, dear cam model Thank you for digging around to find out my information. I hope you feel better now. Thank you for bringing our close tight nit family even closer. I honestly never thought I would thank you for a damn thing in the entire time I've known you. Thanks for pushing me just that tid bit over the edge so I could be open with my family. I hated having to shut them off from a part of my life for this long. And they know about you too and that you are the reason why I told them. They say thank you, but your a cold hearted jealous bitch for trying to out girls on here. Its a dangerous game to play and could actually get someone hurt in the process. So, even though my story came out so much better than you were wishing, others could actually be killed from this game you are playing. Just because you don't care that everyone knows your information, doesn't mean the rest of us want the world to know where we live and our names. Some of us actually do have to worry about people stalking us. 

Love, 

Bell

Chaturbate.com/heresheis 

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Impatience

Its a commonality in our day in age. Everything moves faster than it ever has since the dawn of man. We now get news updates on current happenings minutes after they have happened, and the news is updated frequently. We put entire entrees into microwaves and they are ready in 15 minutes or less, where it would have taken 4 hours just 10 years ago. We can buy clothes in our size without even trying, instead of having to go to a tailor to get correct fitting clothes. So, as we have become used to our fast paced world, we get annoyed and impatient when things are not immediately available and things arnt going as fast paced as we would like them to. We tend to get fed up and move onto something that we think may do whatever we need it do to faster. The downside to this technological world however, is that people have lost the will to be patient. They have lost the idea of "Good things come to those who wait." mentality.

How exactly, does this tie into the online sex working industry? Well, in many ways really. a job such as this is sales driven. The first thing that brings them into your room is the screen shot they see. A little peak of what you are doing. If you look like you are enjoying yourself, they will most of the time enter. Then it is your job to keep them in your room by keeping them happy and intrigued enough to not move on...To stay interested in what you are giving and to make them want it enough to actually buy your product. The viewers are able to read your body language on a subconscious level. They can tell when you are bored, fed up, and being impatient. And when they are wanting to take their time to talk with you, play with you, and hang out with you then eventually fap to you cumming; the last thing they want to see is you being bored because it isn't sexy.
   So as far as the, not getting impatient with your viewers not tipping you enough, or you not earning enough; There is hope. There are ways to get past this and learn to be patent again!

1. Smile. Even if you really arnt happy. Just do it! there is scientific evidence that if you keep a smile on your face for more than 3 minutes when you are any type of stressed, that endorphins will be released into your body making you happier. This, in turn, will make your viewers happier to see you, making them talk more, so you may flirt with them more, making you more money. Its just a really big happy circle! 
2. Move from where you are currently camming from. Sometimes we get bored with out background without even realizing it. This ties into the subconscious level. If you get bored, your viewers will to, making them not want to tip you, making you unhappy and impatient. The new spot, even if  its just the opposite wall, could change everything for you.
3. EmergencyCompliment.com
4. Don't be afraid to give something out for free. The best companies always give out free items. For you it would be bending over just enough for them to see the outline of your ass, or a quick nip slip.
5. When trolls come in your room, have a good time with them. They are in there to try and bum you out. To hurt your feelings. That is their main goal. All you have to do is piss them off by not letting them get to you! It excites your room to see you playing around with these trolls and just brings back fun into the situation. 
6. Communicate. Make sure you are keeping in touch with your followers. If you are not able to be on during your usual time. Let them know and give them a little picture to have for the evening while they wait for you to come back. The more you talk with the offline, the more they will think of you and remember that you are there! So you dont get forgotten, you dont forget them and everyone can continue to have a good time.

You can use pick and choose these tools to your liking. Find out what works for you. The key is, to keep yourself going. An object in motion, stays in motion. And it is definitely hard to pick up the pace again when it slows down. But no one has ever gotten success without putting in their time of hard work. Keep on being sexy. Flirty, and lovely ladies and gentlemen. 

Until Next Time....

Bell

Chaturbate.com/heresheis

My work as a Cam Girl.

I've been doing this since May 8th 2011 and can easily say, that this right now, is my job. No, no no. Let me correct myself. Right now, this is my small personal business. I promote my work, set up my area and break it down every day. Do upkeep on my equipment. I stay in touch with my investors through multiple networks. I have tech support when me electrical equipment falters. Keep in touch with my start ups and have guests come into my room. Most importantly, I pay my taxes. I am very much a one woman work horse most of the time. I consider this my job. Therefore I act like it.

        I wake up after a long night of work. My shift ended at about 3:30 a.m., went and said hello to some friends. Took off my make up and laid my head down by 4:30 a.m.. I wake up to my son begging for Elmo and Cookie Monster at 8:45 a.m.  on the dot just like any other day. I roll out of bed, put on some shorts and head out to the living room, turn on the computer and start some eggs for my kid.  The day goes by pretty much like this, keeping my kiddo busy with this activity or that, making meals, washing clothes, vacuuming, taking out the trash, running errands  going to school online, working out with my 2 year old and then waking up my husband at about 5 pm so he can get ready for work. I make them both dinner and send my husband on his way by 7:40 so he wont be late.
          As I am getting my child ready for bed I start to plan my evening at work........ What shall I wear? Do I want to put on make up tonight or go all natural? What will my goals be? How many do I even want? 4 goals? No, thats too many. Lets say 3 and add more if I need to.  Man I hope XXX and XXX are there I really need to talk to them about their prizes. I wonder what XXX is doing, I haven't seen her on cam in a few days. I hope she didn't leave. I love watching her work. I wonder if I will get another fan club member, that streak last week was crazy! Oh fuck, I forgot to make a video. Dammit XXX and XXX and XXX are gonna be upset! I'll send them some photo's to tide them over. Man I gotta find some time to catch up on content....... My brain is already in work mode and I'm just sitting there, waiting for bedtime to come so I can get ready. I guess I will tweet to everyone since I'm just sitting here! Its been a few hours anyway! Oh look! XXX texted me, FOUR HOURS AGO, OH CRAP!.
            Once the sand man has come to take my kiddo to dream land I set my area up. Vacuum the floor once more. Set a few towels aside on the couch. I never have enough of them. Go change into what I'll wear for the evening. Man...I really need a new outfit. I've ripped this orange thing all to hell. Ugh, eventually! Then my eye contacts go in. I always hate how my brain feels when I only have one in, so I try to put the second one in as fast as possible so my vision evens out....Brush my hair, fuss over my face then end up just putting on eye liner instead of a full face. Brush my teeth then leave to the front room. Turn on my over head lighting and my back lighting to see how the room looks on the demo page of Chaturbate. Looks like I'm not getting washed out by the computer light. Perfect. Then I go and light my candles, and pick a neat spot to put them. Oh, I almost forgot my toys! Running to my room, I open my wicker basket and pick a couple of things to work with for the evening. I set them on the floor next to me in the back ground. Send out a tweet to let my followers know I'll be on in a few moments. Grab a glass of water and gulp it down. Gotta stay hydrated!
         After a long busy day of house wifing, college girling, and errand running, THEN finally pre cam prep, its time to go online. I take a few deep breaths to clear my head of all my daily stress so I can be relaxed, and happy with my fans. No need to burden them with my problems right now. We're all here for sex. Pillow talk comes later on in the evening when things are winding down. I click the broadcast button and I'm online. Smiling at an empty room I go over to twitter, let out a little link to my room, and email everyone following me. Thank god for that email system. People start walking into my room. We are all pretty much greeting each other at this point. As everyone comes and and says their hellos to each other I set up my first goal for the evening. A simple goal. One that everyone overall seems to enjoy being a part of. Nearly all of my regulars come in at the same time. About 15-30 minutes into the session. My mods always seem to come in just in time. Keeping the room in line for me, so I can just do my thing.....
          Its 4:00 am...its been 5 hours. I made my daily earning average go up by 17 dollars. I gotta do that one thing again for sure. So exciting! As I'm talking to my lovely follower that always stay until the end. We talk about our days. How they went. The ups, the downs and of course the pervy parts. We greet the stragglers as they come in and let them know of the wonderful show they missed. Let them tell us about their day and why they weren't there and keep on talking about sweet nothings until its time for me to go to bed and do it all over again..I shut off my camera, say good night to twitter, then text the follower that were there and give them good nights and thank yous as well. I love being able to text them whenever. They are wonderful sounding boards when I'm stressing about anything. Truly good people. I go into the bathroom, remove my contacts, take off my makeup, brush my teeth. Then go back into the living room and tear down my area and slink into bed.... Its 5:00 am. I'll only get 4 hours sleep at the most tonight if I'm lucky, but I really don't think I would trade this for anything right now. I get to stay at home with my favorite person, go to school, and be a loving wife to my husband. I am able to explore my sexuality safely in the comfort of my own home, and still able to meet people who I consider my friends. This little camera keeps a roof over my head and clothes on my back and food on my table. Its just what I need right now, and Its my job until further notice.

The Art of Chatting..

my keyboard is horrible so I wont say much right now.


DON'T BE A DICK.

Revised 9-25-2013

My good computer is finally back so now I am able to voice my opinion with a decent keyboard that isn't all jammed together like a slinky in a box.

***note: I use a non token user as an example but this goes for ANYONE. I will post a separate blog for crammers visiting rooms.

The Art of Chatting...

in a cam room.

Let us start with the basics of it all. You are a chatter in a sex site. You do not purchase tokens because you don't have the money to spend freely, but you do love talking to these amazing men and women who are on cam for you. You are always frustrated and feel like all these people want is your money and keep silencing you at every opportunity they see fit. .... Right?

WRONG.

You need some help, because you keep getting your right to talk taken away, and even sometimes, your right to view. This isn't always fun, and sometimes you didn't even mean to. You are the person I want to help. Not that odd ball two computers over, but you. 

Step 1 : Watch the chat, not just the cam.

                 This is super important. You need to know what is going on in the chat so you know what everyone is talking about and can chime in appropriately. 

Example--- Chat is talking about Star Wars Vs Star Trek....

    Guy 1 : Star wars is amazing simply 4 JABA!

     Guy 2 : I love Star wars! So many guns!

   You: I love your tits sweetie

^^^^^^^^ USER HAS BEEN SILENCED^^^^^^

Even though you very well may like her tits, if you just come out of no where saying that, any Mod will think you are a troll and kick your ass into 6 hours of quite time. Next time say something like, "cammers tits are better than Princess Leia's."

Step 2: Never ever ever EVER demand or ask for the cammer to do something naughty!

                Seriously. All the cam folk have been around long enough to know when someone is trying to coax us into doing something to get said user to cum.  We know about fetishes rare and common, and the obvious "show pussy" is super dumb. Just don't do it. Appreciate the nip slips and feet peeks that you do get, and when you are able to pay to play, PLAY! 

Step 3: "I get paid on Friday."

                 This by far has to be the biggest load of shit I have ever seen. It pretty much means, "I'm scared to say that I'm not able to buy tokens, but I want you to love me anyway."

                 Its much easier to tell the truth to us. We all understand that not everyone can buy tokens. Hell, even I cannot buy tokens. I know many more non paying users than I do paying ones, and I like them just fine. Its really nice to have people on here just to talk to. Don't get our hopes up, then get them slammed down. Unless you are into hurting girls feelings, in that case...get the fuck out, we don't like your kind. 

Step 4: Pet names

               Before you ever call a cammer anything but her posted name, find out if it is okay. Read the bio, ask her, ask the mods! 

Its super late, and I really can't think of more basics than that. If you can, please post a comment and lemme know! And I will make a part two if I get enough ideas! 

I will be posting something like this for cammers going into rooms soon!

Thank you for reading!

Love Bell and Fap Happily!