Jealousy is a thing that we see every day. In our lives, among strangers in public, and of course of fellow cam girls on here.
Let me start by saying that, it is okay to be envious of someone. To wish that you were just like them, or were able to do things like them. Most everyone has a role model of some type they want to aspire to be like. To me, as a cammer, I wanted to be as relaxed and happy in front of the cam as my favorite couple cam. They were always so happy to be there, talking to everyone, playing all the time. I watched them every time they were on. watched how they talked to their users, asked them if I could take some ideas they were using. They were very helpful and more than kind to me, and other cammers that wanted to aspire to be as amazing as they were. This envy only works when you are striving to be like them, not to take them down or to ruin their career. Rather, to better yours in a positive way.
Jealousy on the other hand is a whole other devil. Jealousy is an emotion, and the word typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value, particularly in reference to an existing connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. In its original meaning, jealousy is distinct from envy, though the two terms have popularly become synonymous in the English language, with jealousy now also taking on the definition originally used for envy alone. Jealousy is a familiar experience in human connections.
In the past few months I have seen a surge of jealousy of cam girls unlike any other. Girls are blocking females cammers from coming into their room, spying on others and attempting to turn tippers against cam girls. This is not okay. We should all care about each other. We should all want each other to be successful. The more successful we are as a whole, the better off the site is. This in turn, make the site better, bringing in more users and more talented men and women cammers. Its just good for everyone.
Do not be jealous of a person because they are making more than you, seem happier than you, have more followers, ect. This shows on your cam as insecurity in yourself. No one wants to watch an insecure person. Its just awkward. We all came here for sexual relief and relaxation, not to feel weird.
Now lets say you are a person that is jealous of another cammer, or possibly multiple cammers. You are sick of feeling this way, and just want to get them out of your head and move on with your life right? The first step is to ask yourself why you are jealous of this person, what makes you tick when you see them. Don't say "because they exists" Its further than that, you know it and I know it. The second thing is to confront them about it. For all you know there may just be some miscommunication. Don't be aggressive, all this is going to do is make everyone upset. Just be calm, and say, I've been a bit jealous (YOU HAVE TO ADMIT THIS) of you for ____ and ____ . I felt really ____ about it and I don't like it. From my side it seems like you ____. *note: never accuse them of doing anything, always tell them how you see it, and how it makes you feel. Accusations will get you no where except upsetville. If they are not willing to listen, or talk to you, then your gut is probably right and you should just leave them be and they will get what is coming to them. ORRRR they will hear you out, then tell you what is going on and that will be that. You will either get whatever you needed said and be friends, or get what you needed said, and never have to bother with them again.
"I've already talked to them and it didn't work"
Then why are you still jealous? What is your plan to overcome this jealousy and move on?
"I'm scared to talk to them"
Why are you scared? Do they have something on you that you don't want the public to know? If that is the case, you are best off just leaving said person alone and moving on with your life. If you are worried they are still going to let the public know whatever then you should just let the site owner know about it.
"I don't want to give them the satisfaction of knowing I'm jealous."
This sounds like jealousy mixed with pride. You need to put your pride aside for a minute. Its good to know that you hold self worth in yourself, but there is obviously something about them that is bugging you down to your core. Put your pride aside because I'm sure that you don't even cross their mind that much. Talk to them, get it figured out.
"They hate me."
How do you know? And why do you care? Talk to them, and figure it out, it may be yet another miscommunication gap.
I could go on and on with excuses about why you don't want to confront them but the truth of the matter is, its going to eat you up until it effects your camming. I will admit that when I first started, I was jealous of a few girls, doubted myself over it, and my camming did suffer. I bucked up, talked it through and actually made some friends from it and am now doing more successful then I thought I would ever be. The one thing you have to remember is to not get upset when you see someone that you see in your room, tipping or talking to a cammer that you are jealous of or don't like very much. This is the Internet and they should be allowed to go and view whoever they want and shouldn't be afraid to go into a room in fear that you are hiding in there. It kills their boner. Live and let live.
Love you all. Fap Happily.
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